Thursday, January 21, 2010
Being a Grandmother
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This is a little personal but hear me out. I have really been thinking over the last couple of weeks about my life and my relationships with my five beautiful grandchildren. I am dissapointed in the Grandma that I have become over the last year. I have let the fact that my husband being out of work come between myself and my kids and my grandkids and that is not right!!! It seems that I am so tired most of the time when I get off work, make dinner, clean up that I just want to take a shower and prop up in bed and detach myself by getting on Facebook! It helps me to destress as I stated before in my earlier post but it doesn't help me to establish a relationship with my grandchildren and show them that I love them very much! It seems that I do not have the energy that it takes to have them over for an evening of watching a movie and dinner together. I would like to get them and take them to a fast food restaurant and maybe a movie out but because of the financial situation we're in we just don't have the money for that so I do nothing at all. What kind of a grandma have I become? I know that I love them with all my heart but I feel that I have abandoned them. I want them to feel that they are very important to me and their grandpa but I don't think that they feel that now. I know I want to be there for them so I ask for those of you who read this blog to pray that I find the energy and time to put them first for a change and shake myself out of this rut I have gotten myself in over the last year! Any comments would be appreciated, whether you want to give me advice or offer me a ray of sunshine or a tidbit of your heart. I promise myself that I WILL go get them next weekend and spend time with them and hug them and tell them how much they mean to me!
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- I am a 54 year old fiesty grandmother of 5 wonderful grandchildren, 3 grandaughters and 2 grandsons. I have 4 biological children and 2 step-children with my husband of 2 1/2 years ago.
3 comments:
Marie dont be so hard on yourself. I've left you a personal message on Facebook!
I know how hard it can be to make time for both yourself and the grandchildren, especially when you are so tired.
Could I suggest that you set yourself something called a SMART goal?
SMART stands for Specific, Manageable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-limited.
OK, so you want to see and do something with the grandchildren, so break it down into SMART.
Specific - don't have a "woolly" goal, like "I want to be with the grandchildren" - be VERY specific, such as "I am going to the movies/park/whatever with them"
Manageable - is it something you can manage by saving your energy for that day, saving a little money for that day (more about that later), fit into your shifts?
Achievable - Can it be done without exhausting myself?
Realistic - Is it what THEY want to do or what I want to do. Is it something we will all enjoy?
Time-related? Set a day/date and work very specifically towards that time.
On the money saving front, have you tried putting ONE dollar aside each and every day? I'm currently doing it with £1 coins and although we are not that well off, I don't really notice £1 going into a pot each day. I have hidden it in a draw and what do you know? I now have £170, which will get me a really nice treat/money to go something or go somewhere. Try it - it is amazing how quickly the money adds up!
Thanks for the comments, girls! I like the ideas and will try to implement some changes each day maybe and see if I can change the way I feel about some things1 Love you guys!
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